The Laws of Human Nature

Or perhaps we fall in love with a person who is precisely the wrong type for us and we know it, but we cannot help ourselves.

You must learn how to exploit this. If you can somehow create the impression that others desire you or your work, you will pull people into your current without having to say a word or impose yourself. They will come to you. You must strive to surround yourself with this social aura, or at least create the illusion.

In general, people will want to see more of you, want to see less of you, or be rather indifferent. They may fluctuate among the three states, but they will tend to veer toward one. They will reveal this in how quickly they respond to your emails or texts, their body language on first seeing you, and the overall tone they take in your presence.

Life is inherently chaotic and unpredictable. The human animal, however, does not react well to uncertainty. People who feel particularly weak and vulnerable tend to adopt an attitude toward life that narrows what they experience so that they can reduce the possibility of unexpected events.

Do not be afraid to exaggerate the role of willpower.

You can get through anything with persistence.

You are not a pawn in a game controlled by others; you are an active player who can move the pieces at will and even rewrite the rules.

Do you catch them being nervous or defensive in your presence?

Those with a negative attitude tend to operate from a basic position of fear toward life. They unconsciously want to limit what they see and experience to give them more control.

Some children are greedier than others—they display from early on a greater need for attention. They tend to always see what is missing, what they are not getting from others.