Allison Raskin

The first step in taking back control is building self-awareness

It’s not just your boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s your best friend. You’re losing your best friend who you talk to every day, see every day, sleep with every night. It’s quite traumatic. It’s not like any other relationship that ends.” Turns out, I wasn’t just some boy-obsessed loser. I was responding to true loss. And unless you’ve managed to completely disconnect from your emotions, that loss is going to hurt. A lot. So any self-judgment that follows your reaction to heartbreak is unnecessary and misinformed. You are hurting and that is normal. Cut yourself some slack and a big piece of cake

I was so upset because I was losing the fantasy of him. And that fantasy was something I’d been toying with for years. It was meaningful to me. So the next time someone abruptly ends things and it stings more than you’d
expect, try to remember that losing the possibility of something can be just as painful as losing the actual thing. And then eat another piece of cake