Iyanla Vanzant

Everything you do in every relationship you have prepares and brings you closer to the grand experience of total, unconditional self-love and love for others.

Your job is to avoid the temptation and the trap of thinking that every relationship has to be the relationship that lasts forever and ever Amen.

We believe we are responding to what has just happened or what was just said.

While we are unaware, we become fixated on trying to figure out what just happened and why it is affecting us so deeply, and often painfully, in the meantime.

There is always a little fear in the midst of being loved.

Loving and being loved is something to be ashamed of. More specifically, I am ashamed of myself for what I have done in the name of love.

The truth is that love is supportive and nurturing, not aggressive or demanding

You also realize that it is up to you to break the mold and unlearn what you have learned in order to create a new love model based on new information.

Reflect on the prices you’ve paid, to whom you have paid them, and what it really has cost you. You must also examine how your behaviors and expectations have paid off in terms of what you have allowed yourself to do in order to get what you thought was love.

This is the most miserable meantime of all! The one you sit in, stew in, find yourself in when you have done all the right things and gotten the wrongresults!