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Olivia Fox Cabane

  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    When you meet a charismatic person, you get the impression that they have a lot of power and they like you a lot.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    Three quick tips to gain an instant charisma boost in conversation:

    Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of your sentences.
    Reduce how quickly and how often you nod.
    Pause for two full seconds before you speak.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    CHARISMATIC BEHAVIOR CAN be broken down into three core elements: presence, power, and warmth.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    Being seen as warm means being perceived as any of the following: benevolent, altruistic, caring, or willing to impact our world in a positive way. Warmth is assessed almost entirely through body language and behavior; it’s evaluated more directly than power.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    our minds are fundamentally uncomfortable with uncertainty. The minute our brain registers ambiguity, it flashes an error signal. Uncertainty registers as a tension: something that must be corrected before we can feel comfortable again.
  • Диана Сhas quotedlast year
    The next time you feel yourself considering alternative outcomes to a situation, pay close attention. If your brain is going around in circles, obsessing about possible outcomes, try a responsibility transfer to alleviate some of the anxiety. Consider that there might be an all-powerful entity—the Universe, God, Fate—and entrust it with all the worries on your mind.
  • b9613644393has quoted2 years ago
    By using these two exercises, rewriting reality and getting satisfaction, you can choose your perception of the situation—one that allows you to be both effective and charismatic.
  • b9613644393has quoted2 years ago
    The answer, surprisingly, is to delve into those very sensations of discomfort. That’s right. Though it sounds counterintuitive, rather than trying to suppress, ignore, or power through them, your goal is to give your full attention to the very sensations you’d instinctively want to push away.
  • b9613644393has quoted2 years ago
    The ability to handle discomfort is a highly valuable skill. The less discomfort affects you, the fewer the situations that can impair your charisma potential. When you know how to handle discomfort, no situation can shake you; whether business or personal, there is no feeling that can make you run away.
  • b9613644393has quoted2 years ago
    One CEO told me that “the most effective thing you can do for your career is to get comfortable being uncomfortable.” Think of the plethora of discomforts that come with leadership, from having to fire employees to taking the heat for a team failure, or simply enduring painful meetings. Think of how critical it can be to handle the discomfort of silence during negotiations. I’ve often heard professional negotiators tell me that they could accurately predict the outcome of negotiations fairly early on using one simple clue: whoever has less endurance for silence loses.
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