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  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    Certain days are less productive than others. Make note of the days on which you’re losing time to activities such as watching TV or unscheduled visitors to your office. Be especially alert to distractions on those days; reaffirm your commitment to getting past the coffee cart and around the in-basket to your desk for at least thirty minutes first thing in the morning, to start the day with positive momentum.
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    If, for example, you watch TV after giving up on a project, giving up will become an even stronger negative habit because it is followed by a reward. Conversely, if balancing the books, writing, or painting comes before watching TV, eating, or sleeping, a positive habit is formed.
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    “ A mistake will not be the end of the world because I won’t let it be. I will pick myself up and will try again—regardless of how embarrassed or hurt I feel.”
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    Every path, every role, and every job in life has some difficulties. There are no perfect paths. Just because you find more work and problems on your path than you anticipated doesn’t mean that you made a wrong choice or a mistake!
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    The ability to rapidly correct an error involves taking responsibility for the solution, but first you must let go of what I call the “why-whine”—“Why did this happen to me? Why am I always the one who gets the tough jobs? Why can’t I learn to do things right? Why must I put up with so many jerks?” This is another form of the “should’s” and “shouldn’t’s” that delay your acknowledging the reality of your situation (regardless of how unpleasant), correcting it, lessening the difficulty, and avoiding it in the future.
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    Being a champion—a consistent producer—requires that you forgive yourself for errors and losing streaks while maintaining the sense of inner worth and safety necessary to solve problems and pursue your goals.
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    Sticking with the mission while adjusting to negative feedback is an essential skill in the repertoire of the long-term performer.
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    Suzanne Kobasa, a professor at City University of New York, has identified what she calls “hardiness,” a constellation of three personality characteristics—commitment, control, and challenge.
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    The more often David told Karen how important it was for her to be on time, the more she felt like a child being pressured by an angry parent or teacher. The more critical David was, the more she felt miserable, guilty, and confused about what to do. Within six months of meeting David, Karen, who had once run her own life effectively and successfully, had become a fumbling child about everyday chores such as balancing the checkbook, remembering to fill the gas tank, and keeping track of appointments.
    David unknowingly had fallen into the role of the authoritarian who echoes the “should’s” and “have to’s” of life.
  • Наталья Богатыреваhas quoted2 years ago
    They also learned to assert their individual needs while respecting the other’s values, becoming more interested in results than in blame or control.
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